BIG DAY FOR ME

Having children is both a blessing and a challenge. Just because they are your children does not guarantee their love or affection. As a parent who believes he cares, my children have been less then enthusiastic in their understanding of my leaving their Mother. They blame me for all their troubles rather than looking in the mirror. Instead of getting into a he said she said, I want to get into what I believe to be a big day for me.

My son Adam, who is most like me biologically, not in the weight way, but as I was when I was his age. We had some problems that snow balled into a lack of contact, for a year, and I was devastated by the snub. There was some validity to his complaints, but not to totally shut me out. Again, I am getting into that slippery slope that I did not want to do, so back to my statement. He actually confided in me with very personal things and he had not done that in many many years.

Much to my amazement, I relished in this opportunity, and instead of trying to give him my advice, I decided to listen. It was fun and I loved every minute of it. I stopped being a know it all and let him vent.

I hope this is the beginning of many more talks and learning more about my son. He has a lot to say and for once I will let him say it!

Peace and Love
CHICAGOFATPHIL